In all honesty, I’m still figuring it out. The story I have of my first memory of race happened when I was 4 years old. It was Easter and...

“Mommy, your skin is white and you are good to us… and other white people love us too…” Image of the author’s young daughter She looks at...

It’s a real question. And I don’t ask it lightly. Image by Martino Pietropoli on Unsplash When I look back on my life, I realize that...

My brother and I were talking about a syrup bottle. Picture of the author and her brother It was sitting on the table at a family gathering the day before—familiar, unremarkable, the kind of thing you grow up with and don’t really see anymore. And then he said it. “I just don’t understand why it’s a big deal. Why does taking the picture or the name off of a bottle matter?” I didn’t pause. I didn’t breathe. I didn’t ask what he meant or what he was curious about. I jumped. “Be

Picture by K. Mitch Hodge on Unsplash I’ve written before about being frozen by big feelings in the face of overt racism (see post N**** r Lover ). The kind of moments where shame, sadness, or fear rise up so fast that my voice seems to disappear. Those moments still sit with me. They remind me the distance between who I’ve been and who I’m trying to be. I imagine myself naming racism clearly, thoroughly disrupting it, refusing the pull of whiteness that taught me silence. Bu

This week, as we were watching the second impeachment trial of Donald Trump, someone on the screen called the January 6th insurrection...

Saying goodbye to a year where, for much of it, we found ourselves restricted to only a few spaces, has me thinking about the ways place...

Not long ago our family visited the North Carolina state house and we meandered through an empty and majestic building. Wonder filled my...

I can still feel the week the officers who killed Breonna Taylor were not held responsible. It’s etched into me—not just because of the news itself, but because that same week one of my biracial kids quietly said they wished they had white skin like mine. Picture entitled Protest Signs from Wix I remember standing there, caught between heartbreak and fury, wishing this country could see and cherish their lives with the same ease it sees and cherishes mine. Wishing whiteness h